Ask them: “What is something you could try differently next time?”
When your child identifies what could be changed or tweaked about their approach, they will be able to see that the failure was due to how they approached their goal rather than the result of something inherently lacking within themselves.
If their next approach is still not successful, have a brainstorming session and ask them questions that will help them tap into their curiosity about their own process:
- What’s working well so far?
- What isn’t working well?
- What approach have others used to achieve the same goal?
- What have you learned so far in this process?
It’s important to teach kids not only how to win, but also how to lose. Failing can be a challenging experience, and sometimes it hurts. But failure teaches kids how to course-correct, think critically, and develop resilience. If at first your child doesn’t succeed, they will grow and become more skillful if they try and try again.
In a learning environment, it’s important for children to have educators who understand the growth mindset and can offer positive support when setbacks happen. Connections Academy teachers facilitate online learning with the belief that children can learn how to grow and gain confidence after a “failure.” Learn more about Connections Academy by requesting our free eGuide.